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MARTHA UPDIKE Obituary

UPDIKE--Martha Ruggles. Martha Ruggles (Bernhard) Updike, previously of Beverly Farms, MA, died on October 9, 2023 in New York City at the age of 85 after suffering from dementia for several years. She was the widow of the author John Updike to whom she had been married for over 30 years when he died in 2009. Her previous marriage to Alexander Bernhard ended in divorce in 1974. Martha is predeceased by her parents Margaret Ruggles and Frederic Stanboro Ruggles and her brother Keith Ridgeway Ruggles. Born in Chicago in 1937, Martha was raised in Fairfield, CT before attending Cornell University and later obtaining her Master's in Education from Harvard University in 1964 and her Masters in Social Work from Simmons College in 1988. She subsequently worked at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston as a social worker in their inpatient psychiatric unit. A long-time resident of Boston's North Shore, Martha was a member of Myopia Hunt Club and at the time of her death the Chilton Club. Martha was passionate about gardening, holding several positions with the Garden Club of America throughout her lifetime and was involved in numerous organizations including the Holland Dames, the Huguenot Society of America and the Mayflower Society. Martha was known for her no-nonsense Yankee approach to life and people, her work and her gardens. Her greatest happiness was the life she shared with her late husband John. Martha is survived by her four step- children, Liz Updike Cobblah, David Updike, Michael Updike and Miranda Updike, and three sons from her first marriage, John H. Bernhard II, Jason Ruggles Bernhard and Frederic (Ted) Ridgeway Bernhard. A memorial service will be held at a future date in Manchester, MA.

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Published by New York Times on Oct. 14, 2023.

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Delia Anderson

October 29, 2023

Condolences goes out to the entire family

Erna Lawrence

October 17, 2023

Martha and I were bridge partners and friends at the Chilton Club for a year or so. I very much enjoyed her company and visited her while she was at Fox Hill. She was charming, attractive, and fun. Please accept my condolences.

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